Samantha why women hate me

Brick bemoaned having to go through life as a beautiful woman, constantly receiving free champagne and wine from suitors, flirting with male bosses, and angering female friends and co-workers with her looks. I know how lucky I am. But there are downsides to being pretty, the main one being that other women hate me for no other reason than my lovely looks. By Wednesday morning, Brick had become the center of a Twitter campaign aiming to take her down a few notches for her perceived vanity.

Twitter users created the tongue-in-cheek hashtag samanthabrickfacts to make jokes about Brick's alleged beauty. The Daily Mail's website, where the column was published, received more than 3, comments in response to Brick's essay, many of which called into question whether Brick was as pretty as she declared.

The column was accompanied by seven photos of the alleged British beauty, and anecdotes of occasions when Brick was hated by other women for her looks. Brick, who was not able to reached for comment, recalls in the column posing next to a male friend for a photograph on his birthday, at the suggesting of the photographer. I was devastated and burst into tears," she said.

But I don't think that's the point of what happened with Samantha Brick , where one obviously fragile woman has been ridiculed for saying so. I think the issues are that these sorts of questions — Are attractive women more successful? Are women damaged by one-night stands? Are women hardwired to be bitchy? They even ran all the negative comments Brick's piece had garnered the next day. It's as if they had their cake, spat on it, then made us eat it. Or something. I'm on a Mail Online fast at the moment.

For loads of reasons — partly that I was worried that its dissection of women was affecting me, and partly because, much as I enjoyed riding out my own outrage upon reading the stories, such as the Samantha Brick piece, I felt like a hypocrite. I couldn't berate Mail readers — I was one.

I can't decide which is more disturbing, parading self-hatred or your point that the Mail set up Samantha Brick to be eviscerated. Beneath the hatred, though, is a serious delusion we all seem to have been infected by, which is that a beauty is a fixed category that exists outside cultural and commercial contexts that decree, for example, that tall blondes are beautiful and b that women all crave beauty and shun those who have it.

Most women enjoy whatever we mean by beauty and they enjoy it in others. They don't crave beauty as such; what they do desire is to feel easy with their bodies and their looks. Most women want their bodies and looks to be a source of taken-for-granted pleasure, not something they have to be worrying about non-stop I'm sure we'll discuss where body dissatisfactions come from.

If envy is aroused, it can be a useful prompt. Envy is a signpost to personal desire that is thwarted. It isn't for the specific blond hair beauty! Envy can be for the seeming body confidence, or ease, or wearing clothes well. The envy doesn't need to be a disaster, even for the sisterhood. Women thrive with one another's support. What Samantha Brick seems to be talking about is women's feelings of competitiveness. Those usually get stimulated when a woman feels inadequate or unsure of herself and pumps out a certain kind of competitiveness which makes the others feel bad.

In other words she exports her bad feelings to others who then can feel uncomfortable. I think there is a bit of the latter going on in the SB story. And that is why she has provoked a biteback. And why are questions like this — Do women hate beautiful women? I know how lucky I am. But there are downsides to being pretty — the main one being that other women hate me for no other reason than my lovely looks.

For while many doors have been opened literally as a result of my looks, just as many have been metaphorically slammed in my face — and usually by my own sex. If their partners dared to actually talk to me, a sudden chill would descend on the room.

Taken: Samantha with her French husband Pascal Rubinat. Ten years her senior, he takes great pride in hearing other men declare that she's a beautiful woman and always tells her to laugh off bitchy comments. And it is not just jealous wives who have frozen me out of their lives. Insecure female bosses have also barred me from promotions at work. And most poignantly of all, not one girlfriend has ever asked me to be her bridesmaid. Unfortunately women find nothing more annoying than someone else being the most attractive girl in a room.

Take last week, out walking the dogs a neighbour passed by in her car. I waved — she blatantly blanked me. Yet this is someone whose sons have stayed at my house, and who has been welcomed into my home on countless occasions.

The friend pointed out she is shorter, heavier and older than me. Blushing bride: Samantha on her wedding day, left, and right, at home with Pascal. She laments that not one of her girlfriends has ever asked her to be a bridesmaid - perhaps from fear of being overshadowed by her looks. In my early 20s, when I first started in television as a researcher, one female boss in her late 30s would regularly invite me over for dinner after a long day in the office.

I always accepted her invitation, as during office hours we got along famously. But one evening her partner was at home. We were all a couple of glasses of wine into the evening. Then he and I said we both liked the song we were listening to.

I declined any further invitations. Therapist Marisa Peer, author of self-help guide Ultimate Confidence, says that women have always measured themselves against each other by their looks rather than achievements — and it can make the lives of the good-looking very difficult. Hard work: Samantha takes pride in her appearance. She works out - even when she doesn't feel like it - she doesn't drink, she doesn't smoke I certainly found that out the hard way, particularly in the office.

One contract I accepted was blighted by a jealous female boss. They were modest, yet pretty; more Kate Middleton than Katie Price. But my boss pulled me into her office and informed me my dress style was distracting her male employees.